transgendered persons mentally ill because of their transgendered behaviour?
Transgendered behaviour is not a mental illness. It is a positive
expression of their personality where they have a partial or complete
cross-gender identity. It is a very natural trait and there is evidence
of transgendered behaviour in about every society since pre-history.
For instance, in many Native American societies, transgendered persons
were viewed as very special, gifted people.
are they this way?
are no positive conclusions. However fairly recent scientific research
has advanced the theory, that gender confusion may be caused by a
pre-natal lack of sufficient male hormone production in the mother's
body. There is still much to be discovered along these lines. One thing
that has been discovered is this condition is not curable by
psychiatrists or physicians.
is gender role and gender identity?
role is an artificial model of behaviour expectations of society based
on anatomical sex (stereotypes for male and female behaviour ideals).
Gender identity is independent of anatomical sex and is the primary/
predominant gender role adopted by the individual.
kinds of transgendered people are there?
society feels the need to place labels on about everything, we'll
discuss some of those labels. Cross-dresser or Transvestite: A person
who dresses partially or fully in the clothes typically ascribed to the
opposite genetic sex. Motivations for cross-dressing vary and usually
there is an evolution in motivations from sexual to self- image. A
cross-dresser may adopt a dual gender identity of both male and female
or full time Transvestite: A person who has elected to live majority or
full-time in the gender role assigned to the opposite genetic sex. This
person may alter their body through cosmetic surgery and hormone
treatment to appear more like the opposite genetic sex. But not to the
extent of undergoing Gender Reassignment Surgery.
Transsexual: A person
who disassociates with their assigned gender role and has a gender
identity of that of the opposite genetic sex. This individual
completely alters their body through hormone treatment and sex
reassignment surgery in order to align their appearance with their
gender identity. Androgyny: A person who appears neither definitively
male nor definitively female, their gender role is ambivalent,
typically a combination of both roles.
queen: This is the vernacular for a male homosexual who dresses either
in flamboyant styles or allows male characteristics to show while
dressed. The individual typically demonstrates a parody of women. Quite
often for entertainment purposes.
dressing in opposite genetic sex clothing mean they are homosexual?
Gender orientation is independent of sexual orientation or preference.
In fact, the vast majority of cross-dressers are heterosexual in terms
of their anatomical sex.
what age is this usually discovered?
this condition manifests itself in early childhood. Sometimes it is
"triggered" by an incident in later life. There have been cases
reported in people being "triggered" as early as 3 years old and as old
7. Why do they sometimes feel
ashamed or guilty about their transgendered behaviour?
one's easy.. Because our society has determined that transgendered
behaviour is inappropriate. You've been brainwashed since early
childhood concerning gender roles and behaviours! Consequently many
transgendered persons bear the load of guilt and shame; this is what
causes the most significant problems with transgendered people. Finding
a good support group is most important for them!
do I do if I find my partner is Transgendered?
of the very negative social stigma attached to transgenderism,
transgendered people usually keep their transgendered nature very
private. However, if you do find out that your spouse/partner is
transgendered, please remember that they are the same person they
You have only
learned about a facet of their character that is probably one of the
reasons you married them in the first place. Once you find out, you can
do great personal damage to their self-esteem through rejection of
them. Like you, their feelings of self- worth can be very fragile. Open
and frank communication with your spouse/partner is the most important
thing you can do.. An ongoing dialogue is essential.
about the family?
the children and the rest of the family depends on a lot of factors:
the level of transgendered behaviour, the ages of the children, your
best estimate of how well they can handle it and the like. Preservation
of your children's self- esteem (and yours) and their position in their
peer group is important. You may wish to consult with an experienced
family counsellor or child psychologist on the matter.
transgendered behaviour change as a person gets older?
frequently, yes. Usually what happens is a reduction of sexual
motivation and more interest in the development of a more complete
opposite gender "persona". Most often this occurs in the mid-thirties
to mid-forties in life. Interaction of the "persona" with other people
(often in public) becomes very important to the "reality" of their
about their sexuality?
persons can often have dual gendered sexuality as well. However, their
sexual relations are typically "conventional", with
most having a spouse and family. Their dual gender
sexuality typically involves just fantasies, although they are often
very strong fantasies.
It is important to understand that they are not sexual deviants, child molesters, exhibitionists,
or the like,
they are transgendered. A transgendered person's sexual activity covers
the same spectrum as that in society. Having a loving and understanding
spouse or partner is the most important thing for both the sexual
satisfaction as well as the general well being of a transgendered
person and their family.
about getting professional counselling?
will only help them cope with the conflicts of their transgendered
behaviour and societal expectations (remember there is no "cure" for
about their job?
society itself has some problems coping with transgendered behaviour,
so too will most employers. Mostly this will not arise, as in the
majority of cases; their dressing is confined to periods of time, out
side of the working day. However if they're planning on living
full-time in the opposite gender role, they will obviously have to
inform their employer.
Experience shows that there are very mixed
14. Is this behaviour a result of any inadequacy on my part?
Your spouse/partner was this way when you met them; it is their nature.
They were born like it. You should not think that you are to blame for
their behaviour. If you examine your relationship carefully, you will
realize that they love you very much.
do they use another name for their other "persona"?
just serves to complete that "persona". For instance, it wouldn't be
appropriate to call a person who appears to be a woman, Ralph or Jimmy.
You would naturally expect that someone who presents them selves as a
woman should naturally be called by a woman's name!
transgendered behaviour hereditary?
No, not that
anyone has been able to prove.
restrooms do they use in public when cross-dressed?
the one that is most appropriate for their appearance. Their motivation
for using the restroom is none other than the same as yours!
is the function of transgender support groups?
groups are made up of transgendered individuals, their spouses and
friends. Almost all of them depend on volunteer help to offer
assistance and keep the organization running. Virtually every major
city in the Great Britain has at least one support group. The groups
vary in level of activity depending on their membership and
motivations. Many have social functions and other activities.
groups publish some sort of newsletter or have a web site for their
members to visit and obtain additional information, which is freely
available. All the support groups provide a very valuable service in
peer group support for transgendered people. We do recommend they find
a support group that meets their needs and supports it, so that the
group support is there for those that come after. Thus seeing to it,
that support is available to all that require it.
can I find out about support groups?
today' s society, the Internet is one of the best places to seek a
support group, or from the listings in the Transgendered Magazines that
are published by the societies such as The Beaumont Society, or Rose's
Repartee Magazine. There are many web sites that provide contact and
information about local support groups.
there a support group in Lincolnshire?
The Boston Belles Transgendered support Group meet once a month in a
village Hall just outside of Boston. Membership is open to any member
of the Transgendered community (Cross dressers, Transsexuals &
Transvestites etc.) who dress fully, as a member of the opposite gender
and in a socially acceptable manner. Wives & partners, are also
encouraged to come along and join us with their Transgendered partners.
encourage the social interaction between members of the transgendered
community, together, where applicable, with their partners, from the
Boston area and it environs, by providing these social meetings in a
safe anonymous environment, with suitably safe parking.
will also provide access, to the representatives of the transgendered
community, who sit on the LGBT, Rainbow forums and Boston Area
Partnership Diversity & Equality Theme Group, to enable the views
of this group to be heard. A"SOULMATE" will be at most meetings, to be
available for the needs of wives & partners of members of the group.
For further information,
help and support e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org in confidence.